Thursday Dec 01, 2022

A Goal Getter’s Guide to Birthday Wishes

“I wish someone had told me that wishes don’t come true. Why didn’t they tell us that wishes don’t come true?” asks host and teen confidence coach Leslie Randolph. Today on her 40th birthday, Leslie reflects on the concept of wishes and how they differ from goals. Whether it is birthday wishes or New Year's resolutions, we tend to think of these wishes as out of our control and unlikely to come true. Wishes are dreams that we outsource to the universe, when really what we should be spending our time on is making goals. Goalsetting can be an intimidating process, because it requires us to get out of our comfort zone. We must be willing to face temporary discomfort and the fear of failure in order to truly be a goalgetter.

Your inner teen wants to keep you safe and is very resistant to anything that causes you to leave your comfort zone, so anytime you set a goal there will be pushback from that voice inside your head. In order to keep moving forward and not get discouraged, you need to have a strong ‘why’ to ground you and a clear path to your goal. A goal is similar to a wish, but what differentiates it is that a goal comes with an action plan. Instead of outsourcing the outcome to the universe, you are taking the outcome into your own hands. By truly committing yourself to the goalsetting process and choosing a ‘why’ that you feel strongly about, you can make that dream happen for yourself. It takes self-confidence to push back against your inner teen, and one of the ways to build that confidence is to have a very clear goal, a very clear why, and clear steps forward, along with a plan for any obstacles you may face along the way.

Why didn’t they tell us that wishes don’t come true? Sure, sometimes they do, but the odds are much better with an action plan in place. Tune into Why Didn’t They Tell Us with host Leslie Randolph to learn more about the difference between wishes and goals, Leslie’s goalsetting process, and how to gain the self-confidence to stand up against the obstacles that will inevitably come your way. Leslie shares her process behind the goal she had of creating this podcast, her ‘why’ of wanting to get these confidence lessons to as many women as possible, and how you can use her method for any goal you want to achieve.

Quotes:

• “Why doesn’t anyone tell us how to set a goal and the illusion that comes from wishes?” (3:04-3:14 | Leslie)

• “The common theme with all these wishes is that we outsource destiny to the universe. We close our eyes and wish to the powers that be that somehow this will just happen for us.” (4:49-5:09 | Leslie)

• “You are going to decide on a goal or a resolution and when you do, you are going to commit to it.” (11:19-11:30 | Leslie)

• “I want you to get very clear on your ‘why’. Your ‘why’ is your port in the storm that you can always come back to when you are struggling.” (12:11-12:24 | Leslie)

• “If you set a goal, it requires you to get out of your comfort zone. It requires you to create something in your life that does not yet exist. To create something in your life that does not exist requires you to risk failure, to face fears, to risk potential discomfort.” (14:32-14:52 | Leslie)

• “If I was watching the movie of your life, what would I see you doing every day to get closer to that big goal? Write all those down.” (19:28-19:36 | Leslie)

• “I wish someone had told me that wishes don’t come true. Why didn’t they tell us that wishes don’t come true?” (22:35-22:43 | Leslie)

A Goal Getter’s Guide to Birthday Wishes

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