Be My (Mindful) Valentine

“Taking care of your own wants and needs is the most beautiful thing you can do. Let's normalize that. Let’s be our own Valentine's and take care of ourselves,” shares host and self-confidence coach for women and teens, Leslie Randolph. With Valentine’s Day just around the corner, people are focused on showing love to others, but that doesn’t mean you should neglect self-love. Be your own Valentine and take control of how you want to feel. 

 

It’s likely you have feelings that come to mind when you think of Valentine’s Day, and many of those feelings are probably unpleasant. You may have had big relationship goals for a past Valentine’s Day and your partner fell short of your expectations. If you assign meaning to what people do or don’t do based on something arbitrary like the date, rather than focusing on the facts, you will just end up feeling awful unnecessarily. 

 

Make a plan for how you want to feel on Valentine’s Day. If you want to feel loved and appreciated, remind yourself of how loved and appreciated you already are every day leading up to the holiday. Tune into Why Didn’t They Tell Us for a conversation with host Leslie Randolph about being your own Valentine.

 

Quotes:

• “The meaning we assign to other people's actions, the thoughts we think about what they do or don't do will determine how we feel.” (7:34-7:42 | Leslie)

• “I want you to plan in advance how you want to feel on Valentine's Day.” (8:45-8:48 | Leslie)

• “There is so much lovability to you, regardless of what other people do or don't do on Valentine's Day. You want to feel appreciated? You remind yourself of that now and leading up to the day. Remind yourself every day how appreciated and loved you are. There's so much evidence for it when you look for it. So friends, yes, today, every day, and especially leading up to February 14th, be your own Valentine.” (10:03-10:36 | Leslie) 

• “Taking care of your own wants and needs is the most beautiful thing you can do. Let's normalize that. Let’s be our own Valentine's and take care of ourselves.” (11:55-12:09 | Leslie)

• “Focus on the facts versus the optional meaning you can assign to it.” (12:52-12:57 | Leslie)

• “Do not let the date, a neutral circumstance, just the fact that it's February 14th, do not assign meaning to that. That is unnecessary if it makes you feel terrible.” (16:13-16:24 | Leslie)

• “Love is the greatest feeling in the world. Give it to yourself.” (20:44-20:47 | Leslie)

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