Self-Confidence Kryptonite

“Would you say to your best friend, ‘Well, you kind of suck. You’re a total failure?’” asks host Leslie Randolph on today’s episode of Why Didn’t They Tell Us? Most likely—and hopefully—the answer is no, so why do so many of us so easily and frequently say these things to ourselves when we fail to achieve our goals or get something we wanted? We attach disparaging narratives to our failures and positive narratives to what we perceive as other peoples’ endless stream of successes. There are three major forms of what Leslie calls self-confidence kryptonite, and today she’ll share what they are and what we can do to guard against them.

 

She’ll reveal the one small word to add to your negative self-talk that will completely change your outlook. She’ll discuss sticking to the facts and how to avoid the traps laid by social media that prey on our doubts and insecurity. Learn a series of lists to compile, how to be aware of negative self-talk and deliberate about positive self-talk. 

 

As Leslie says, self-confidence is an inside job!

 

Quotes

 

• “If your goal is to one day make the team, or to one day get that promotion at work, those thoughts are not going to motivate you to try again. Why would you? If you believe you suck, or you’re a failure, or it’s never going to happen, then what’s the point? Those thoughts not only make you feel bad but they stop you from going after what it is you want.” (5:55 | Leslie Randolph)
• “That doesn’t mean today’s result is going to dictate what happens in the future, only you can if you stop trying. And you’ll stop trying if you tell yourself you suck, you’re a failure, and it’s never going to happen.” (11:58 | Leslie Randolph)
• “If your best friend called and said, ‘I didn’t make the team,’ or ‘I didn’t get the promotion,’ would you sit there and say, ‘Well, you kind of suck. I mean, you’re a total failure and you’re probably never going to get it, I mean, it’s never going to happen for you.’ Would you say that to her? No. No, you wouldn’t. And if you did, chances are she wouldn’t be your best friend for long.” (9:11 | Leslie Randolph) 
• “Learning to remove yourself from situations that make you feel terrible is a total act of self love.” (15:02 | Leslie)
• “Self-confidence is an inside job, which means the source of it comes from within as well.” (19:58 | Leslie Randolph)
  

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