Stop People Pleasing with Sara Fisk

"No, no, I will not speak to myself that way. No one speaks to me that way, not even me,” shares Sara Fisk. Sara, a Master Certified Instructor and Coach specializing in coaching women who struggle with people-pleasing, perfectionism, and codependency. 

 

In a conversation with Leslie on today’s episode of Why Didn't They Tell Us, they delve into the significance of silencing the inner bully. They explore effective techniques like the hard pass and loving engagement to combat negative self-talk, as well as shed light on the prevalence of people-pleasing behaviors and how to overcome them. Emphasizing the importance of treating oneself with kindness and avoiding self-criticism, especially during uncomfortable situations, they also dive into the primal programming that fosters people-pleasing tendencies and the consequences of disappointing others.

Quotes

• “I think one of the most essential lessons that we are not taught is that there is no growth without some discomfort. It just doesn't happen.” (18:06-18:18 | Sara)

• “I can handle disappointing another person because I have my own back. So that is why this work of eliminating the bully and being in your bestie voice with yourself is so essential. Because when we go out into the world to try new things, it's scary and uncomfortable. And if on top of the scary and uncomfortable, we're going to be really mean to ourselves, that's really hard to do.” (34:16-34:45 | Sara)

• “Our thoughts come into our brain in our own voice. And they're hard to detect as bullying. They start very young, and we aren't aware of it until we feel really bad. And sometimes the question to start with is, how am I talking to myself?” (22:06-22:44 | Sara)

 

Connect with Sara Fisk:

Website: https://www.sarafisk.coach/

Follow Sara: https://www.instagram.com/sarafiskcoach/

Listen to Sara: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-ex-good-girl-podcast/id1672086651

Connect With Leslie:

Get Leslie's Free Guide: Six Simple Steps to Help Your Teen Cultivate Self-Confidence | https://wondrous-leader-9073.ck.page/bc048dbe7b

https://www.confidencecoachforgirls.com/
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