What Will They Say?

"Self-confidence is an inside job," Leslie Randolph asserts in this solo episode of "Why Didn’t They Tell Us?" Despite this truth, many of us allow others' opinions, which often mirror our own insecurities, to shape our self-perception. This fear of external judgment hinders us from pursuing our desires, whether it's starting a business, joining a club, or parenting in our own way. To combat this, Leslie introduces practical tools to help us reclaim our self-confidence and courageously pursue our true paths.

 

Echoing the investigative approach of journalists with the Five Ws—who, what, when, where, why—Leslie guides us to interrogate the fears and seek approval from the "they" whose opinions we fear and crave. She debunks the myths surrounding these perceived judgements and uncovers the true nature of criticism. Leslie then encourages us to ask ourselves a pivotal question, one that connects us more deeply with our desires and empowers us to act with confidence.

 

The episode invites listeners to dial down their "bully brain" and amplify their "bestie brain," reconnecting with their adolescent selves—a time when many of us were acutely concerned with others' views. Through Leslie's insights, we learn to silence our internal critic and foster a supportive inner dialogue, empowering us to believe in ourselves, irrespective of external voices.

 

Quotes

• “When we’re so concerned about what other people will think about us or say about us if we go after our goals, then we often don’t.” (4:15 | Leslie Randolph)
• “Listen, you’re wonderful. You’re amazing. You are special. But not everyone is talking about you. You could be Oprah, Beyonce, Ghandi or Lady Gaga and still, not everyone in the world is talking about you, caring about you or even thinking about you.” (8:35 | Leslie Randolph) 
• “Are they going to raise your kids for you? Are they going to pay your rent because you walked away from that professional path or from launching a business? Chances are, no. They’re not.” (11:36 | Leslie Randolph) 
• “That internal naysayer, it’s just your bully brain holding you back. It’s dressed up in other people’s opinions, but it’s all happening in your mind.” (14:48 | Leslie Randolph)
• “When you challenge the story and write a new one with the bestie as the narrator, it’s amazing what you’ll find, and, more importantly, what you’ll do.” (18:13 | Leslie Randolph)

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