Why Didn’t They Tell Us?

The Anxious Return to School with Kate O’Rourke

“As moms, we’re big problem solvers,” says Kate O’Rourke, certified life coach and host of the Reclaim Your Life with Kate podcast, who joins Leslie on the show to discuss the increased rate of anxiety experienced by teens–particularly girls–in the wake of the pandemic. As a school psychologist, Kate is well versed in the issues anxious teens face as they return to school–including a major resistance to doing just that. 
 
As a single mother of two, she also understands the tendency for mothers to feel guilty about their children’s anxiety issues and their often ill-advised attempts to solve the problem. Recognizing that anxiety is a natural and necessary response, she explains the difference between a “normal” level of anxiety in response to, say, tests and grades, versus something more debilitating. 
 
As the ones who know their children best, parents should trust their instincts to tell them if something is off and whether it’s time to seek professional guidance for their kids. For their part, moms can practice modeling, validating the child’s feelings (something parents often fail to do when they think they’re being “supportive”), asking the child to gauge the severity of their perceived threat, and engaging in co-regulation. Teen girls, especially, are facing increasing pressure to be perfect, and parents should be honest about where those pressures are coming from. 
 
Your teen may not necessarily respond right away and that’s OK, too. The point is to take self-inventory without any of the shame or guilt moms too often place on themselves. 
 
Quotes
• “We all have anxiety. It's there for a purpose, right? It's for survival. If we weren't anxious about the noise that we heard in the bushes, if we didn't worry that it might be a tiger and act and run away, we're getting eaten by the tiger. So anxiety is a survival technique that is still necessary.” (8:26 | Kate) 
• “In situations where if you think that you would be nervous or anxious about something, it would be typical that your teen would be anxious in that moment. But when it's really impacting them, if they're not going out with friends anymore like they used to, if  they love basketball, but they won't try out for the team, if it's just really impacting the things that they used to enjoy and they're, they're not able to get over those hurdles, then it might be a sign that it's time to reach out and get some help.” (10:53 | Kate)
• “It's very easy to question as a mom, when your kid engages in what are just typical developmental behaviors, if there's something really wrong, I need to be concerned, this is a problem I have to solve.’ We're big problem solvers.” (13:26 | Kate) 
• “As a mom, what we often want to say is, ‘Oh, sweetie, you have straight A's, you're so smart, you're going to be fine.’  You're gonna find that can feel really invalidating to someone that is in that spiral. It can also send the message that you shouldn't feel anxious right now, this is something wrong with you.” (16:18 | Kate)
• “I say this with so much love as an anxious mom that has an anxious child, we model that for them. And so the best way to help your kid is for you to go first. If you recognize this in yourself, if you even related to the anxious spiral that we're talking about, the best way to help them is for you to go first and learn about your own brain and your own system and why anxiety is there and how to handle it because then you can offer that to them.” (24:44 | Kate)
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Being the First with Kanoa Greene

“We are all built with and for magic,” says Kanoa Greene, internationally celebrated fitness trainer and outdoor adventurer. As a plus-sized leader and new face of the industry, Kanoa is breaking down barriers and introducing much-needed representation, inclusion and belonging to those spaces. Though she was trained as an opera singer and was a success in the corporate world, Kanoa followed her authentic desire to take up fitness and inspire others by sharing her story. Bringing diversity to every aspect of fitness, she has since worked with several major brands and become the first plus-sized trainer to appear on Good Morning America. 
 
Forging your own path is rarely a linear journey. You will make mistakes and that’s OK. Kanoa relied on a supportive network who believed in her–even when they didn’t understand her mission–until she could empower herself. Now, she works to inspire others to empower themselves in return. 
 
Everyone has a story that the world needs to hear. Kanoa’s story proves that even without a roadmap, by following your own inner voice and overcoming your fears, you can tap into your own unique brand of magic. 
 
Quotes 
• “As fearful as I was in taking those steps, I just continue to do it. I continue to show up for me. And over time I realized I was helping other people. I was helping my mother, I was helping my best friend, I was helping my best friend's mother. It was just all of these little things and then I got to see value in in me, right? Even in the body that I'm in right now, even being on my own journey, I still have sparkle in me that is shining and can help someone else on their journey.” (11:12 | Kanoa)
• “I had to spend time alone just knowing in my heart that I made the right decision and that the right thing is going to come to me. It worked out when I left the music amazingly. So I had to believe that following my gut was the right thing and that the right thing was going to open up.” (15:49 | Kanoa)
• “It’s okay to doubt and it's okay to have a lot of fear and to struggle through it. I mean, I would say it wasn't pretty. People would look at maybe my social media now and just seems like oh, it's all glamorous. But it was not glamorous early on, butI think it was extremely important for me to have the people that truly had my best interest at heart and were going, they were in it. It was like heels in the ground. They were going to help propel me forward with as much love and support as they could until I was ready to fly on my own.”  (20:26 | Kanoa)
• “When you're younger, especially when you're in your teens, there's a lot of insecurity. For me, I never felt like I belonged to my body. Iit felt so awkward and it felt like navigating through life was hard. It was challenging” (37:38 | Kanoa)
• “I felt inside of me that I was made for something bigger. It’s like sometimes you just feel like you are special, but the outside world tells you that maybe you're not and you really don't know where you belong or how it's gonna play out. And you don't have the answers, so you don't know that it is gonna work out. What I would tell myself is that feeling inside of you, it is so valid and it feels big for a reason because it is big. It is bigger than anything anyone could ever imagine for you. And so it's gonna feel awkward because you have this big ball of magic inside of you that is bursting to come out.” (37:57 | Kanoa)
 
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How to Ditch Doubt & Overcome Anxiety

“Even the most successful person feels doubt and anxiety. No one is free of it,” Leslie explains on this solo episode of “Why Didn’t They Tell Us?” Doubt and anxiety act as an alarm system telling us something is wrong. But when we experience these feelings in everyday life, as a result of our negative thoughts, and worst-case-scenario thinking–”I can’t do it and here’s everything that will go wrong if I try”—they act as the greatest barriers to our self-confidence and to our goals and dreams. Luckily, our thoughts are not truths and we don’t have to believe them. In fact, our brains don’t want us to fail or feel negative emotions– so when we feel them (which we will) it only leads to more feelings of danger. 
 
Yet, we all feel anxiety and doubt—at an astonishingly high and persistent rate as it turns out–including Leslie. The point is not to resist them–which only makes them grow stronger–but to learn to process them, and on today’s episode, Leslie gives us the tools to do just that. She gives us N.E.R.V.E.--a five-step approach to turn the volume down on the negative emotions so that we turn the volume up on the good stuff.
 
Self-confidence is a journey and not a destination. Anxiety and doubt are part of the package. By giving them their rightful space without giving our whole selves over to them, we create more room for self-confidence and the pursuit of our dreams and goals. 
 
Quotes
• “The truth is, that every feeling– the good and the bad, self confidence, doubt, courage, bravery, fill in your flavor of your favorite emotion, or least favorite–they're part of the human experience. All of them. No human alive is immune to feeling all the feels.” (2:29 | Leslie)
• “Remember: it's not the emotions that are the issue. It’s what we do and don't do when we feel them, and what we make them mean about ourselves that becomes the barrier to self confidence.” (7:24 | Leslie) 
• “Self confidence and self love are subtle. It's almost like a whisper, ‘You've got this. I believe in you.’ But doubt and anxiety, and the thoughts that cause them are louder. They're boisterous. They demand our attention. It's an alarm sounding, ‘Something is wrong. You aren't equipped for this. You can't do it.’” (9:22 | Leslie)
• “The goal really is to stop emotions from stopping you.” (16:48 | Leslie) 
 
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Body Image Baggage with Dr. Lisa Folden

In this episode of Why Didn't They Tell Us?, Dr. Lisa Folden, a licensed physical therapist, behavior change specialist, and anti-diet health coach, shares a powerful message: "We're more than a body." Growing up, Dr. Lisa was influenced by the persuasive tactics of the diet industry, which led her to believe that weight determined both health and happiness. However, her perspective drastically changed after becoming a mother to three children, transforming her relationship with her body and her approach to her profession.
 
Dr. Lisa provides valuable insights and practical advice for mothers who wish to nurture healthy self-esteem and body image in their daughters. She emphasizes that the words we choose to speak, as well as the ones we leave unsaid, significantly shape our children's perceptions. Moreover, our actions when we think our children aren't watching also have a profound impact. Dr. Lisa advocates for the separation of weight and food from notions of health and morality, encouraging parents to allow their children to make autonomous food choices.
 
Acknowledging the current generation's focus on diversity and inclusivity, Dr. Lisa highlights how this mindset naturally paves the way for body acceptance. She further emphasizes the importance of recognizing that our bodies are designed to change throughout our lives. Ultimately, Dr. Lisa reminds us that our bodies should be the least fascinating aspect about us, and that our true worth resides both internally and externally.
 
Quotes
• “So many mothers, we are trying our very best. None of us have it all figured out…and that's okay.” (17:51-18:31 | Dr. Lisa)
• “We won't comment on our children's bodies directly, but they hear us commenting on ours.” (19:12-19:17 | Dr. Lisa)
• “Oftentimes our children are picking up on the subtle things that we do…even though we don't ever directly say ‘Being fat is bad, don't get fat.’” (20:07-20:54 | Dr. Lisa)
• “We’re creating a culture where we think it's OK to comment on other people's bodies or make suggestions about their bodies.” (25:50-26:12 | Dr. Lisa)
• “Engaging in these conversations, kids can understand that bodies are supposed to be different…nothing's wrong with them.” (27:59-28:37 | Dr. Lisa)
• “Food is not moral…for ourselves or for our kids.” (37:51-38:06 | Dr. Lisa)
• “Nothing is forever. Your body is supposed to change…you will do yourself justice as you age.” (40:13-40:46 | Dr. Lisa)
• “You are far more valuable than what your body looks like.” (41:17-41:20 | Dr. Lisa) 
• “If you don't believe in affirmations…get yourself some affirmations related to body image.” (44:02-44:31 | Dr. Lisa)
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Learn more: https://www.healthyphit.com/
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Healing from Trauma with Audrey Grunst

Meet Audrey Grunst, the incredible licensed clinical social worker, founder, and CEO of Simply Bee treatment centers, as well as the author of the uplifting book "Five Steps to Grow a Resilient Mind." Audrey is a true force of positivity and has an amazing story to share.
 
Last year, Audrey spearheaded an incredible initiative that brought together 700 therapists to provide vital counseling to those affected individuals who received this much-needed support. Talk about a powerful display of compassion and resilience by the devastating mass shooting in Leslie's hometown of Highland Park, IL. 
 
In this episode, Audrey emphasizes the often-overlooked importance of self-awareness in healing trauma. She encourages us to pay attention to our own urges and physical sensations, which play a significant role in the recovery process. Audrey also reminds us to honor those who display incredible resilience and may not develop traumatic responses to distressing events. Let go of guilt and shame, especially for parents who may have missed the signs, and embrace a gentle and compassionate approach towards ourselves using our "bestie brain" instead of our "bully brain."
 
Join the conversation, as Audrey's wisdom, experiences, and powerful strategies pave the way for growth, healing, and embracing resilience like never before.
 
Quotes
• “The urge and the physical sensations are more important than labeling thoughts and emotions…If we did urge noticing, and we did physical sensation noticing, we would have prevented a million other thoughts and emotions because we would have kind of taken care of business.” (17:52-18:19 | Audrey)
• “We're acting out the pain through media or activities that might look healthy…But…ask yourself, ‘Is this matching my healthy values and helping me grow? Or is this furthering my expression of the trauma?” (26:37-27:22 | Audrey)
• “Life was never meant to be easy…you will be stronger and better afterwards, even if in the moment you don't feel that way. So think about ‘What do I need today? What do I need this week? What do I need in the next month, to grow and to heal?” (34:48-35:33 | Audrey)
• “Resiliency, in my mind, is hard work, lots of celebration, lots of new things, novelty…How do we find that healthy outlet rather than the reactive outlet towards ourselves.” (36:21-36:46 | Audrey) 
 
Connect with Audrey Grunst:
To learn more about Audrey & Simply Bee, please visit: https://www.simplybeecounseling.net
Mental Health Resources: https://www.simplybeecounseling.net/resources
Well, Not Perfect Podcast: https://www.simplybeecounseling.net/podcast
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Setting the Stage for Self-Confidence

In a conversation on today’s episode of Why Didn't They Tell Us, Leslie’s long-time friend Jessie Fisher talks about setting the stage for self-confidence and the importance of staying curious and joyful even in the face of adversity. 
 
Today, Jessie is known for being many things–an award winning actress, composer, educator and even a certified doula. However, this long list of accomplishments and accolades weren’t always who she was. After originally not getting accepted into a theater conservatory, Jessie placed her love of theater on the backburner. Even though she temporarily stepped away, Jessie’s passion and love for acting never wavered. Ultimately, she paved her own path to fulfill her lifelong dream of making it to Broadway. And it was her self-confidence that set the stage for Jessie to find success not only in acting, but in the many roles she has played in life. 
 
The path to success is never straightforward. And along the way, you will find many bumps in the road. However, when you have confidence in yourself, nothing and nobody can stop you from becoming the person you’ve always dreamed of being.
 
Quotes:
 
• “The more we witness and have that awareness of what's outside of us, the more you get to be kinder to yourself and kinder to humanity as a whole…It can be hard, but that is the human condition.” (9:48-10:10 | Jessie)
• “I didn't get into any of the programs. I knew in my heart that I loved it, but that maybe getting there was going to be a different path. And, as long as I love what I love, I'm going to find ways to keep loving it.” (16:34-17:00 | Jessie)
• “If I am so stuck on what I've told myself I am and what my identifiers are from age 7 on, what am I missing out on seeing? What am I closing out?” (18:06-18:19 | Jessie)
• “If someone's mean to me…I immediately am like, ‘What did I do? What's wrong with me?’. Instead of being like, ‘I wonder what's going on with them?’.” (23:17-23:30 | Jessie) 
• “The things I've done are objectively successful. I'm in my third Broadway show as a theater actor, that's pretty good. But I don't let someone else's idea of that success interfere with why it means something to me. And it's good to let it wash over you when you have great achievements and let other people being impressed by you make you feel good. And then I gently asked myself, "Why does it feel good just for me in the secret world of my brain?” (26:39-27:13 | Jessie)
 
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Stop People Pleasing with Sara Fisk

"No, no, I will not speak to myself that way. No one speaks to me that way, not even me,” shares Sara Fisk. Sara, a Master Certified Instructor and Coach specializing in coaching women who struggle with people-pleasing, perfectionism, and codependency. 
 
In a conversation with Leslie on today’s episode of Why Didn't They Tell Us, they delve into the significance of silencing the inner bully. They explore effective techniques like the hard pass and loving engagement to combat negative self-talk, as well as shed light on the prevalence of people-pleasing behaviors and how to overcome them. Emphasizing the importance of treating oneself with kindness and avoiding self-criticism, especially during uncomfortable situations, they also dive into the primal programming that fosters people-pleasing tendencies and the consequences of disappointing others.
Quotes
• “I think one of the most essential lessons that we are not taught is that there is no growth without some discomfort. It just doesn't happen.” (18:06-18:18 | Sara)
• “I can handle disappointing another person because I have my own back. So that is why this work of eliminating the bully and being in your bestie voice with yourself is so essential. Because when we go out into the world to try new things, it's scary and uncomfortable. And if on top of the scary and uncomfortable, we're going to be really mean to ourselves, that's really hard to do.” (34:16-34:45 | Sara)
• “Our thoughts come into our brain in our own voice. And they're hard to detect as bullying. They start very young, and we aren't aware of it until we feel really bad. And sometimes the question to start with is, how am I talking to myself?” (22:06-22:44 | Sara)
 
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Website: https://www.sarafisk.coach/
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Self-Confidence Simplified

“You can feel self confident today by making the choice to think highly of you and to love and believe in that human,” shares host Leslie Randolph, self-confidence coach for confident teens and confident women. Your thoughts determine your feelings, and self-confidence is a feeling. This means that you can choose to feel self-confident by changing the way you think about yourself. There are no pre-requisites for self-confidence and you do not have to wait for some external factor to happen in order to begin loving and trusting yourself.
 
It is easy to fall into the trap of believing that your thoughts are facts, especially when the brain is so good at seeking out evidence in your life to support those beliefs. However, the way you choose to think about yourself is exactly that, a choice. You can choose to think differently and step out from behind those limiting beliefs and labels that you have placed on yourself. When you choose to trust in yourself, love yourself, and believe in yourself, you will begin to feel more self-confidence. 
 
You can start feeling self-confident right away by deciding to change the way you think about yourself. Don’t let limiting beliefs about yourself hold you back from going after your goals and the life you want. You are worthy of self-confidence just by being yourself. 
 
Quotes
• “Your thinking is not facts, it's not truth. Your thoughts are just sentences in your brain that you have chosen to believe.” (8:01-8:12 | Leslie) 
• “We give ourselves these limiting labels based on the thoughts that we think about ourselves.” (8:46-8:51 | Leslie)
• “Why didn't they tell me that self confidence was simply a choice I could make when I loved and believed in me?” (10:28-10:37 | Leslie) 
• “Self confidence is a feeling. And like all feelings, it comes from your thinking.” (13:17-13:23 | Leslie)
• “You can feel self confident today by making the choice to think highly of you and to love and believe in that human.” (14:36-14:46 | Leslie)
• “Go after your goals and live the life of your dreams, not because it will give you that evidence you're looking for that you're worthy of self confidence. You are you, that is the only prerequisite necessary.” (15:28-15:43 | Leslie)
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Behind the Brand with Lindsay Pinchuk

“It's really important in business and in life that you just stay true to your own values and you don't compromise your integrity for short term gain,” shares Lindsay Pinchuk, mompreneur, social media maven, marketing expert, community builder, and host of the Dear FoundHer podcast. Lindsay never set out to become an entrepreneur, but found that it happened naturally as she worked on building connections with other moms and other women small business owners. By showing up with authenticity and being willing to take each step as it came, Lindsay was able to grow her network organically and open more doors for her business than she had ever imagined.
 
It can be a scary thing to put your authentic self out there, but it is only by being yourself that you can attract the right people to your business. When you are true to yourself, you probably won’t appeal to everyone, but the people you do appeal to will be aligned with your values. To be a successful entrepreneur, you have to be willing to adapt to feedback, grow from failure, and accept that things won’t always go according to plan. Lindsay shares that she experienced many failures along the way, but that it was those lessons that helped her grow to where she is today.
 
If you’re trying to build your brand, the most important thing for you to do is just be yourself. When you show up as your authentic self every time and stay true to your values, you will attract like minded individuals and naturally grow your connections. 
 
Quote
• “You really have to ask for the feedback and be willing to take it and adapt and shift. And that's just not just in business, it’s in life.” (15:00-15:06 | Lindsay)
• “You can plan all you want, but you better understand that as much as you plan, you're going to have to undo the plan, because things don't go as planned.” (17:35-17:45 | Lindsay)
• “You have to fail in order to succeed.” (18:26-18:27 | Lindsay)
• “With the lessons and the failures I firmly believe that my whole experience, the holistic experience of me forming, founding, building, scaling, selling, and even not having the outcome the way I wanted it to be, that whole holistic experience is what has allowed me to do what I do now.” (23:17-23:43 | Lindsay)
• “It's really important in business and in life that you just stay true to your own values and you don't compromise your integrity for short term gain.” (38:05-38:13 | Lindsay)
 
Connect with Lindsay Pinchuk:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lindsaypinchuk/ 
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dearfoundher/
Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-foundher/id1591976277
Website: https://www.lindsaypinchuk.com/
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Messy Is A Mindset with The Duchess of Declutter

“If a system has been created for you and you feel it can work for you, my wish is for people to try to maintain it as best as they can,” shares Brooke Milton, The Duchess of Declutter. Brooke can remember being as young as 3 years old sorting all of her stuffed animals as a coping mechanism that helped her to feel more in control. Having an organized home has always been something that Brooke feels she cannot function effectively without. It was not until she was 39 years old that she finally found out that the reason she was different was because she was wired that way. Instead of letting her OCD diagnosis be a limitation, Brooke leaned in and turned it into her greatest gift and superpower. 
 
Unless you are like Brooke and find home organization fun, it is probably going to be a challenge to change your habits. At the end of the day, it is all about committing to maintaining an organizational system. A professional like Brooke can help you get started, but the system will fall apart unless you choose to maintain it. Some tips for getting started are to decide on a criteria for bringing in new things and getting rid of old ones, to focus on your needs vs wants, and to not feel guilty when considering letting go of something that was given as a gift.
 
Your physical space is a representation of your mindset. Making small changes to your environment can make a big difference to your mindset and your life as a whole. All that stuff in your environment clutters not only your space, but your brain too. So really consider how much stuff you want taking up your brain space. 
 
Quotes
• “The thing that makes me different is my greatest gift.” (5:57-6:00 | Brooke)
• “What I recommend is not looking at the room, or the area, or the project collectively, but having to break it down into very, very small pieces, very digestible pieces. And starting with a very quick win.” (17:10-17:26 | Brooke)
• “You have to be in a good headspace to deal with something that's not fun.” (18:05-18:10 | Brooke)
• “I love getting rid of things, but I'm not about to say that somebody can’t have a statue or a little ornament, because it represents something very significant in their lives.” (26:14-26:28 | Brooke)
• “The systems don't work if the habits don't change. Your systems are only as good as you're willing to keep them, they're not magic.” (29:24-29:31 | Brooke) 
• “You have to have some criteria for filtering things in and out of your house.” (31:24-31:30 | Brooke)
• “People think we need more than we do. We don’t. We need very little.” (32:32-32:37 | Brooke)
• “If a system has been created for you and you feel it can work for you, my wish is for people to try to maintain it as best as they can.” (46:07-46:20 | Brooke)
Links:Learn more at http://www.theduchessofdeclutter.com 
follow along @TheDuchessofDeclutter on Instagram or find Brooke Milton on Facebook.Connect With Leslie:
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